When performing a breakup candle spell, I use what is known as a back-to-back candle. It is the figure of a man and a woman on the base of a heart and they are facing away from each other. For a love or come to me scenario, a candle where the lovers face each other would be used. I carve each side of the candle with the names of the people involved, their birthdates, zodiac signs, sigils, or elements of your petition.
Specific herbs, roots, and minerals are used to surround and cover the figures. You will notice in this picture that red pepper flakes create a line that separates the two people. I then create another circle of roots to lock in the energy of the break up work. The red candles outside the ring represent the love or attraction they once felt for each other that they can no longer achieve or “reach.” Black tourmaline stones surround the work to absorb the negativity of the work so that its after effects will not be able to reach you, the one that petitioned for the work to be done.
From there they are allowed to burn until they melt and the candles extinguish.
Some people ask about the ethics of performing break up spells. There can be extenuating circumstances for breaking up a couple. For example, is one of them involved in drugs or criminal activity and dragging your friend down with them? Was he your love first, and she swept in and stole him away? If the two of you are meant to be together, and this gal got in the way, then it would be justified to separate them. What if you are married and your spouse is seeing someone else? Protecting your marriage most certainly warrants breaking the two of them up immediately. Magic and ethics aren’t always so black and white.
If you are wanting your own breakup oil, you can find it on our aromaG’s website here
If you were looking for breakup work that is a little less elaborate and below $25, you might start with my BREAKUP candle altar service